My parents have spent the past 25 years trying to build a life for our family that is safer than the one they left behind, only for me to surprise them by being queer. Whether it be the internalization, consciously or subconsciously, of the homophobia that they were exposed to in Brazil, or fear for my safety and wellbeing, they had their reasons to be upset. I treated this as an explanation for their reaction, but not an excuse.